How To Move On From A Breakup

Let’s be true to ourselves, a breakup is so painful. And you know what makes it so painful? It’s because you on the other hand, gave it your commitment, invested your time & emotions and yet this other person you’re involved with, doesn’t think it’s worth it and is choosing to let it all away like they don’t even care.

So, at first you try to make them see reasons why you can both work, remind them of the beautiful memories you guys created (I believe you should have beautiful memories else what’s the point being with this person, right?), the promised future you had for each other and even the hurdles you had to overcome together.

Then at that point where there’s no redemption in sight. You start to imagine how you’re going to live life without this person. It gets even more difficult if this is someone who you’ll keep having in your space. Maybe you work together, attend same functions or even live so close to each other. That’s some really challenging situation to deal with. I’ve been in this same situation, so I’ll be sharing with you how I dealt with mine and if you follow through with it, you’ll be fine in no time. It’s not so easy but trust me, you’ll be fine.

So here are the things to consider if you want to move on;

1. You Will Not Die!

Somewhere in your mind will have you wondering, “how do I live without this person?” and you even feel like you won’t make it till the next day. It’s normal to feel that way because your emotions are not stable at that moment but here’s what most important, you won’t die without this person. If you’re reading this, its cos you’re still alive right? So, take a deep breath…

2. Don’t Blame Yourself

It’s very possible that you slip to this as a coping mechanism to help you deal with the situation. So, you resort to blaming yourself for not giving it your best or one thing or another you feel didn’t make you guys work. Don’t dwell on this, whoever wanted to be with you will also put in as much work as you have, so don’t beat yourself about it.

3. Don’t Rush Into Another Relationship

This is another way we try to convince our minds & emotions that we have healed or that the breakup had no effect on us. So what do we do? We try to fill up that void with the next available person, especially when you have so many people swooning over you, who’ll feel lucky to have you as a partner. I know it sounds cliché but the results of doing this have not changed a bit. This next person will most likely suffer from your emotional hurts and insecurities from your last breakup. If you want the best for yourself, your mind, do not think of a next relationship as a rebound especially when it seems like your ex has moved on well without you. It can be so painful, I know right? 😫

4. Spend Limited Time With Your Friends Who Are Lovers

Yes you read that right 😁

Occupying your space with your friends who are lovers will most times trigger your memories with your ex and this can leave you bitter. You end up second guessing yourself, wondering what if’s and maybe’s or even want to push you into rushing another relationship. So, at this time, keep these friends of yours at a relatable distance. Roll with your single friends better.

For more, I talked about it on my Podcast "Moving On After A Breakup"

check for it using this link: https://anchor.fm/ayomide-femi10/episodes/Moving-on-after-a-breakup-ena1k9